What's Important!

Back in early September, I went through a very difficult week.  As hard as it was for me to face, it was more difficult for my aunt, who buried her second child.  It was harder for my cousins who buried their second brother and harder for my cousin's wife, who buried her soul mate.

Understanding what is important in life quickly is very important.  My cousin died of Leukemia at the young age of 42.  We grew up together in Trinidad.  I was there when his brother died at the age of 19, due to negligence at the local hospital.

Moving to the U.S. was exciting for all of us.  Unfortunately, it broke us apart.  My cousin stayed in Brooklyn, NY, while I eventually moved to Jacksonville, FL.  When I heard he had cancer, it was definitely hurtful.  We spoke a few times by phone during that time.  He complained of the pain he endured, but he always stayed positive and made plans for when he would beat it.  My current financial situation made it difficult to travel.  I had many intentions to spend time with him, but it never happened.

Now that he is gone, I beat myself up for not sacrificing to make the trip.  Bills aren't going anywhere.  I should have just gone, despite my expenses.  I realize that not only is life precious, but so is the people you share it with.  Take the time to make those moments happen.  Understand also that family is important.

I know as we get older and have families of our own, we tend to drift apart.  But we don't want to rely on the death of a loved one to bring everyone else together.  We need to bring everyone together for happy moments - plan family reunions regularly, maybe every 5 years.  Plan to visit at least one relative who lives far, every 2 years.  Its important to us, but also to the next generation, so they know their family.

RIP Allan, you were an angel among men.